The idea of being feminine carries different meanings to different people. Different cultures have their notion of femininity.
Conventionally, being girly or feminine is associated with being gentle, nurturing, sensitive, passive, sweet, empathetic, or devoted.
So, how do you become more feminine?
In this article, you’ll learn how to embrace the politeness, grace, and competence that defines feminine personality.
How to be More Feminine
1. Dressing
Clothes play a critical role in how you present yourself to the world. If you would like to present yourself as a “girly” person, wear clothes that would make you look more graceful and ladylike.
Here are some of the ways you can style yourself for that epic feminine look:
- Wear appropriate accessories: Have a range of fashion accessories to compliment your look. Handbags, scarves, heeled shoes, jewellery, and hair accessories are some of the items you can use to spice up your feminine look.
- Try “girly” patterns: Soft fabrics, eye-catching patterns, and delicate prints are considered feminine. Some of the styles you can use to feel more feminine include florals, lace, polka dots, velvet, preppy checks, and frills.
- Add brighter colours to your wardrobe: Bright, vibrant colours are good at giving a feminine look. Wear more shades of pink, blue, lavender, green, teal, yellow, or red for a girly feel.
2. Hygiene
As a lady, you need to look clean and smell nice. Good hygiene is necessary in keeping yourself healthy and attractive.
You don’t need to be excessive in your healthy habits. All you need is to make an effort to take care of yourself.
Here are several feminine hygiene tips you can adopt:
- Keep your body hairless: One conventional marker of femininity is hairlessness. Employ various techniques like waxing, tweezing, threading, or shaving. While at it, don’t force yourself to do it if you are comfortable.
- Use perfume: Smelling good is feminine. Spray on light, flowery, or fruity fragrance before stepping out.
- Have time for grooming: Set aside 15 – 20 minutes daily to shower. This will help you keep up the ladylike appearance.
3. Hairstyle
Although having long hair may not necessarily be linked to being feminine, traditionally, women have grown their hair past the shoulders.
Hairstyles like braids, ponytails, and long, romantic waves are difficult to have with shorter hair.
Apart from conditioning and brushing your hair, you can care for it by observing a healthy diet.
Lean meat, fatty fish, seafood, leafy greens, and fruits full of vitamin C can strengthen your hair and give it a mirror-like shine.
4. Makeup
Although emerging culture is gradually pushing men towards using makeup, it is still a female-dominated domain.
Most ladies complete their look with makeup before they step out of their homes. Apart from enhancing your appearance, makeup also enhances your attractiveness and boosts your confidence.
Utilize neutral eyeshadows, nail polish, concealer, red/pink lipstick, eyeliner, and lipgloss to enhance your femininity.
5. Sexy
If you are having a problem to feel and act feminine, it’s about time to embrace your sexy and unleash it to the world.
Most women tend to hold back at this stage – concerned that they might come out as being promiscuous. It’s all about striking a balance.
Avoid letting the world define how you see yourself. Instead, determine how you want them to see you.
Being feminine is sexy. Get a bit flirty with the men in your life. Do what makes you feel good.
6. Manners
As a lady, practising the basic rules of etiquette you learned as a child will bring out your elegance and femininity.
Here are simple manners to incorporate in your daily habits:
- Eating with your elbows off the table
- Smiling genuinely at people
- Using “Please” or “May I”
- Saying “Excuse me” when you burp in public
- Finding a kinder way to give negative feedback
- Sneezing into a tissue rather than your hands
- Chewing your food properly, with your mouth closed
- Greeting people kindly even if you are in a bad mood
- Not interrupting people or rolling your eyes when they are speaking
- Knocking on doors and waiting for a response before entering a room
- Asking people to pass dishes to you during a meal rather than reaching for it yourself (and invading their space)
- Keeping negative opinions to yourself but sharing positive comments and compliments with others
7. Posture
To have a feminine posture while walking, keep your spine straight with your shoulders directly above your hips and your chin parallel to the ground.
Keep your legs crossed to avoid exposing yourself when wearing short dresses or skirts when sitting down.
Another way to sit like a lady is by planting both of your feet on the ground and crossing them at the ankles, then keeping your knees tight together.
When walking, toss your shoulders back and elevate your chest while swinging your hips slightly at each step. Try to walk slowly and gracefully by taking lighter steps.
8. Behaviour
Being “one of the boys” can damage the feminine personality you are trying hard to construct.
Behaviours like shouting, booing, chugging beer, giving high fives, showing off, or chomping on food can puncture your femininity.
Having a feminine personality doesn’t mean you can’t drink beer or enjoy sports. You can do all these with more grace and style.
Moving in a feminine energy means being smoother and more in control. However, this depends on your context.
9. How you Speak
You do not need to change how you talk or think to portray a feminine personality. A big part of femininity is hinged on confidence.
Nonetheless, avoid crude language and swear words. They are generally frowned upon in society.
Most of the time, femininity is closely associated with polished language. As such, women are expected to speak politely.
You need to find a balance between asserting yourself and polite speech. You can still raise your voice (occasionally) and curse (silently) but generally, strive to speak politely.
10. Friends
As a woman, having male friends is great. However, if you intend to build a more feminine personality, you should surround yourself with women friends.
Having women friends around you will allow you to learn what people consider as “feminine” and what is not.
It will also allow you to appreciate femininity more as you connect with women who will uplift you and teach you ladylike values, such as sensitivity, compassion, and strength.
Additionally, hanging out with ladies will require you to act ladylike, whether online or offline.
11. Read Female Magazines
What you consume from the media plays a big role in shaping your femininity.
Women’s talk shows, magazines, and social media content can all give you an idea of what a typical woman is expected to act and look like.
For example, the media is always trying to uplift polished, successful, and empowered women.
Focusing on fashion, style, and relationship trends will give you an idea of how women are expected to carry out themselves in today’s society.
As you consume content from media, be cautious and take everything with a grain of salt. Most of the content is meant to advertise rather than to give advice.
